“My wife collected the cigarette packages I bought. There were over 150. She told me to multiply the sum by Rp 10,000 [US$1.10] and think about how selfish I was,” said Helda Suhenda.
His wife played an important role in the 48-year-old man’s decision to quit, he told a seminar earlier this month.
“She told me to choose between cigarettes and her.”
His wife’s threat might have boosted Helda’s willpower, he said. He joined an anti-smoking program at Persahabatan Hospital, East Jakarta and said he quit a decades-long smoking habit August last year.
However, psychiatrist Tribowo Tuahta Ginting said that threats were not always effective in trying to convince a person to stop smoking.
“A person trying to quit should be given praise and small things that can aid the process, such as candy or fruit,” Tribowo said during the seminar.
Threats, as well as excessive praise, should be avoided, he said.
Tribowo also counsels smokers at Persahabatan Hospital’s anti-smoking program. Hopeful quitters must have a person who can support their efforts, he said.
“They must have relatives, family members or someone who knows them well to help them through the process.”
First and foremost, said Tribowo, smokers should muster their own willpower.
“I was a heavy smoker. One day I decided I was sick of cigarettes,” said Een Mahaereni, a 61-year-old grandmother who had been smoking for more than 20 years.
She added that complaints from her grandchildren, who said she “smelled like cigarettes,” encouraged her to quit, even though it was her decision.
Helda agreed. He said that despite receiving constant support from his wife, it was his choice to join the program.
“It was for my own health. I do not want to spend my last days in a wheelchair.”
His constant coughing at night had stopped after he quit, Helda said. “I now realize how much I disturbed my surroundings when I smoked,” he said.
Tribowo said that in case of a relapse, smokers must remember why they had decided to quit in the first place.
Those who failed to quit should continue to meet with their supporters and make new plans to quit.
A friend who helps you to stop smoking might be helpful, but peers who smoke constantly could have the opposite effect, he said.
“A person trying to quit might have to avoid the people they usually smoke with,” Tribowo said.
Muhammad Sulaiman Joenoes, who accompanied one of the seminar’s speakers, said that he had plenty of support when he quit smoking but was still tempted to have a cigarette from time to time.
“I often see cigarette commercials when I watch sports or music on television.”
“The commercials make me want to smoke,” he said.
Tribowo said that cigarette advertisements often send the message that smoking was “cool” or “manly”.
The government is currently considering limiting print and broadcast advertising by cigarette companies.
Under the proposal, cigarette companies would also be prohibited from sponsoring events in exchange for logo placement and would be banned from distributing fliers or other promotional material.
Workers and companies in tobacco-related industries formed the Indonesia Tobacco Society Alliance (AMTI) to challenge proposed regulation of the cigarette industry.
Government data shows that state revenue from cigarette taxes exceeded Rp 55 trillion (US$6 billion) and the industry employed more than 6 million people in 2009, said an AMTI official.
Threats are not always effective in trying to convince a person to stop smoking.
By Dina Indrasafitri, The Jakarta Post, Jakarta